Know your DEAL-BREAKERS. Know what they are before the date even begins.
You need to know a little about yourself to really enjoy a date to the fullest. Have you been honest with yourself? Do you know what/who you're looking for? Or more importantly, who you're NOT looking for? What don't you like? What won't you accept?
If you have an idea of those answers, you'll feel more confident about the date and you won't end up with Mr.Wrong a month later and wonder what happened!
To give you an idea, here are some of my deal-breakers. Keep in mind though, that everyone's different!
#1. No drugs. (been through enough of that in the past — don't want to be involved with someone who uses, this includes cigarettes too)
#2. He's mature (and hopefully not younger than me!) (ok well this is a harsh statement. But i'm tired of being with guys who aren't anywhere near ready for the next steps in life that i want to approach soon. And age does play a factor in that type of maturity. Been there, done that. So someone around my age or + is what i'm “looking” for.)
#3. He's self-sufficient. (I have a busy life, and he needs to have a life too. He needs to be able to take care of his own business. I'm not acting as anyone's mother — not this time around! No sir!)
I found the dating site i had joined (eharmony) was really great at helping you discover what you're wants and “absolute NO's” are. It might be worth filling out a profile one day just to discover more about yourself! (it seriously takes at least half an hour to fill it out!)
Sounds like good advice Roxy. Keep up the good work.
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