Bridesmaid... Never a Bride...

So next weekend it's one of my BFF's weddings, and it's a full fun-packed weekend, and once again i'll be the hottest bridesmaid in town ;) hehe just kidding! There will be 3 other HOT bridesmaids at this wedding, trust me!
I kind of feel like the girl in 27 Dresses, ever seen that movie? It kind of plays on the theory of “always a bridesmaid, never a bride”. But u know what, i'm ok with that (for a while! lol). There's no rush in my life to be the next one planning a wedding. Far from it. Planning is NOT one of my strong points and i do NOT look forward to that stuff.

...the perfect ring on my finger... and the pretty dress... and a guy telling me he'll love me forever.... well... THOSE are the things that i dream about! But i guess one day, my time will come...

Maybe AFTER all these big BFF-weddings (this is the 3rd that i'm a bridesmaid in, and counting...) if i'm a lucky girl, i might just go down south one day to escape the drama of planning! Who knows what i'll do.. i'll be 50 anyways right? ;) HAHA ok enough pity-party!! My friends don't appreciate that attitude!
So... next weekend, the bachelorette is planned, the pre-wedding mani-pedis and supper is booked, the wedding-day has some last minute scheduling to be arranged, and the morning-after brunch is scheduled. What else is there to do but save up my pennies, and ENJOY!! (right KK? Enjoy! It'll be over in a flash!)

So... fellow readers, stay tuned for fun party moments!
And I know i've (kinda) given up drinking and all... but i think i'll allow myself a few drinks on this special occasion. ESPECIALLY, since it's the FIRST time that i have a DATE who will be with me at the wedding AND coming home with me AFTER the wedding!! ;) Yes yes, don't worry, i am talking about Mr.Energizer!!! You will be right J?! hahaha kisses xo

This is The Real Me

So after many requests and questions, i decided that i will reveal the real ME on my blog. Sounds silly, but i never wanted to actually show my picture in case the guys that i spoke about found out about the site... I figure the more anonymous i was, the better.
But then it sucks, because it limits what pictures i can put up.
So, i've decided... drumroll please... to introduce the real me
Hi. Nice to meet you xo

I ♥ lace

I simply love anything lace. Always have, always will.
And I love that it's trendy to wear right now. This outfit that you see zoomed in here was what i wore out to the gay clubs last weekend, it was sooo à-la-lady-gaga. Hot & awesome.

These are the first real pics of Roxy.... stay tuned for more as i reveal the real me this week xo

What do you find most attractive in a man emotionally? physically?

ooo i like this question. hehe let's talk MEN girls!!! ;)

Ok let's start with the physical...

Men with ARMS kill me! Those strong arm muscles that can hold you just melt my heart. Especially when there are tattoos involved! But i think that goes without saying!! hhehe

The second physical trait on my list is EYES. I love when you can look into a guy's eyes and see his sensitivity, even though he may look tough and unphased on the outside. Love love love that! Feels like you can see his secret...

Ok, so emotional “hotness” — i find that's when a guy can talk about his feelings. When he can be honest. When he can entice ME to talk about MY emotions (which we all know is tough for me). When he can help ME deal with emotions by talking it out instead of shutting down and/or walking away.
I'm trying my best to be a good communicator in all my current relationships (with my guy, my girls & my work) because it's the key to ANY successful relationship. But it's hard. And for me, if i'm around people who ask questions and invite me to talk, i will be a better person.

What do you guys find physically and emotionally attractive? In men or women! I'd like to know! I'll be reading your comments below!

— Roxy xo

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i took a deep breath

I passed my Roxy-5-week-freakout. I feel soooo much better. xo

Got My F*** Cancer Tshirt!

Finally got my tshirt! SO excited about my outfit today, FUCK CANCER tee and white washed jeans! YEAH BABY! Checkout the links to buy a tshirt like this on my last post @ http://roxysrendezvous.blogspot.com/2010/08/fuck-cancer.html
 

How important is it for you to have your friends like your boyfriend and vice versa?

Good question!
I find this is kind of an important question at the moment because it IS important that my friends like my significant other. Even MORE important that my sister likes him!lol But that's a whole other story!! hehe

Friends are the people who are of most importance in my life and will be around BOTH of us if things start to progress into a serious relationship. I find it interesting to know what kind of vibes people get from the guy your seeing. Things that maybe you don't notice or even think of.

Actually, this past weekend, the guy i'm seeing met one of my best friends, AND my best GUY friends—JB and K. I didn't put any extra pressure before “the meet”, but it was imperative that these friends in my life (who are very protective of me) like the “new guy”!

And thank god that they did! What i found interesting, is that THEY noticed things that i didn't. Example: apparently i was sitting on the couch, balancing a baby and a glass of wine (sounds right up my alley right?! lol) and my guy walked in the room and immediately took the glass away and put it somewhere safe. I didn't even notice this. But, this is how my guy friend KNEW that this guy is a good guy! Funny huh? But it's true, my guy (who we TOTALLY need to find a name for now -- what could it be?) he's totally attentive and always pays attention to if i'm comfortable/uncomfortable, and without saying anything he fixes the situation. It's pretty damn nice to have someone thinking of you like that!

Anyway, all to say friends opinions are of utmost importance, as I'm sure HIS are to him! Luckily i already know his best friend, but i'm sure there are a bunch more to meet!

Thanks for the questions! Keep them coming!
—Roxy xo

Ask me anything

After attempts to switch things around, you come to a conclusion that your significant other is just really not great in bed. Can a relationship succeed this way?

OMG this is such a tough question to answer!
If you are asking me this question, you must feel like sex isn't satisfying for you and/or your significant other?

I think there are many facets to a relationship, and sexuality is just ONE of those facets. HOWEVER, it kind of sets the tone for your intimacy. Feeling close to your partner is needed, and being intimate is usually the best way to express that...

I don't think this issue should immediately be a deal breaker though. You need to talk to each other and express what you like in bed, and what you don't like! It might be a bit of an embarrassing conversation, but well worth it. There are many fun books to buy out there (not just with impossible new positions) but with techniques, toys, questions to ask each other, and games! You can have a lot of fun discovering each other, and for sure can resolve the “being bad in bed” situation.

I think the most important, is for you to express yourself and be honest about what turns you on, and your partner should be able to reciprocate what he or she likes as well.

Now go! Enjoy some good sex! hehe
— Roxy xo

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If your significant other cheated on you, is it a dealbreaker or a second chance is a possibility?

Great question. My answer = Dealbreaker.
My ex cheated. Not that he would admit it. But there was enough evidence to make it clear to me that i didn't deserve to be with someone who would go behind my back and lie to me. Especially with his ex! If someone can do that once, he could easily do it again. I can't judge all relationships, but in my opinion, if a guy's a jerk, he's always a jerk!
— Roxy xo

Ask me anything

After numerous attempts to find Mr. Right, only to end up with so many Mr. Wrongs, your good friend tells you that she no longer believes in love, how do you react to this?

hmmm are you sure you're not talking about me? lol I have to admit, it's hard to believe in love when things KEEP going wrong with men... it's hard on your ego, your emotions, and on your faith... and sometimes it seems like “giving up on love” is easier. I have to say though, when dates DO go well, your hope and belief in love re-ignite immediately. Your friend just needs to go on some GOOD dates where she feels pampered and cared for ;)

Ask me anything

self-reflection

What's was your dream for 2010?
Are you living up to your expectations of yourself?
Are you being the best you can be?
Or are you letting yourself down...
Self-reflection is a constant need for us to feel happy and satisfied with the life we're living.

I am faced with these questions, and this reality, due to supporting my friends who are suffering or have experienced realities that are tougher than most. Death, loss, tragedy, love, friendship, family, depression, grief, miracles and uncertainty... It makes me question life, how i live, who i choose to love, and what i want at the end of it all. It's rather intense and humbling all at once.

This is me, the real me, raw and honest.
Love yourself.
Free yourself. xo kisses.

Thinking back to your most serious relationship, what would u say was your biggest sacrifice and was it worth it? What would u do different with the next serious prospect in your life?

OMG this is a good, but hard question...
i think the biggest SACRIFICE i made in my past relationships has been my independence. It's NOW something that i cherish closely and feel very comfortable with, so in future relationships i think will always try to keep that aspect of myself alive and well. It's not just because you have a guy that the rest of your life stops! There are so many wonderful things to do ! Friends, family, traveling, work, sports, etc.
Obviously having a supportive, caring man is of HUGE importance, but just don't lose yourself in it ladies! That would be my advice for now!

— Roxy xo

Ask me anything

If you could go back in time 10 years and tell your younger self something, what would it be?

Be yourself and don't be shy! People will love you for YOU, no matter what! And for the love of God, STOP planning your LIFE! Let everyday happen as it should; you can never predict what the future will hold!! (i remind myself of that everyday right now)
— Roxy xo

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Would you rather date a lot of different people, or be in a committed relationship?

Good question, and 100% i would rather be in a committed relationship. I know it's not as fun for my blog, but i have tons of stories still that i haven't shared to keep the fun going!
— Roxy xo

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So there's This Guy... i've been seeing

So there's this guy... isn't there always?!... that i've been seeing.

And i haven't written about him much to everyone's disappointment — well maybe once...
I just decided on a new tactic for this one... trying NOT to put pressure on it, or jinx it.

So basically i decided to NOT talk about it, even though he's been wonderful every step of the way. I guess every girl gets tired of dates never working out the way you hope they would. And sometimes when your feelings are involved and “out there” (like mine of the world wide web!), it can get... extra frustrating.

But now, there's good things going on here, so i feel the need to talk, so here it goes. Let's hope i don't jinx this!

do u believe that exes can be friends? especially if there's a new girlfriend in the picture?

hmmm it depends how friendly u want to stay w the ex. I think in some ways, it's difficult for everyone involved. I'm friends w one of my exes and he has a gf, and i'm totally happy for him. BUT we don't hang out outside seeing each other at work. I guess everyone's just got to be on the same page.
And i think if you're in an important relationship, NEW gf outranks OLD gf, so if she's not ok with the friendship, then something's gotta change!
tough question, i like it ;)
— Roxy xo

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FUCK CANCER

Yes i'm screaming it loud and proud and clear; FUCK CANCER.
I just bought a t-shirt to help scream it even louder. What will you do?

Check out this site if you feel the need to scream louder.
http://www.letsfcancer.com/home.html

GAGA Goes Grey

The new Lady Gaga interview in the September issue of Vanity Fair... this is going to be interesting!
I can't wait for it to come out on newsstands! (August 4th)
Read the September Vanity Fair preview article here

The pictures look hot and her mom sounds like one awesome Lady!

Photograph by Nick Knight. Via www.vanityfair.com