Goodbye 29!

Today is my last day of my twenties. 

I'm going to smile at every guy i see, wear a flirty outfit and my sexiest shoes. Gonna milk these twenties while i still can! I hope my thirties will be as fabulous as my twenties!!!
Be prepared for my big DIRTY THIRTY update at the end of the weekend! Hopefully i will be sober enough to write!! xx

Yea... Ok, He's My Boyfriend :)

So there's always this awkward moment in a relationship where you're not sure you can say that the guy your “seeing” is your “boyfriend” or not. You never want to jump the gun and assume wrongly... but when you're only dating each other and you're exclusive, what else is there to add?

If you've kissed him, slept with him, slept at his place, met his friends... even after all that... these days, it doesn't mean that you're an item, yet.  And asking him officially “are you my boyfriend?” kind of makes it feel like you're in elementary school...

So, when is it “official” for you? When he's met your parents? When he comes to a big event with you? when he stays over? when u change ur FB relationship status?

This is The Real Me

So after many requests and questions, i decided that i will reveal the real ME on my blog. Sounds silly, but i never wanted to actually show my picture in case the guys that i spoke about found out about the site... I figure the more anonymous i was, the better.
But then it sucks, because it limits what pictures i can put up.
So, i've decided... drumroll please... to introduce the real me
Hi. Nice to meet you xo

I ♥ lace

I simply love anything lace. Always have, always will.
And I love that it's trendy to wear right now. This outfit that you see zoomed in here was what i wore out to the gay clubs last weekend, it was sooo à-la-lady-gaga. Hot & awesome.

These are the first real pics of Roxy.... stay tuned for more as i reveal the real me this week xo

What do you find most attractive in a man emotionally? physically?

ooo i like this question. hehe let's talk MEN girls!!! ;)

Ok let's start with the physical...

Men with ARMS kill me! Those strong arm muscles that can hold you just melt my heart. Especially when there are tattoos involved! But i think that goes without saying!! hhehe

The second physical trait on my list is EYES. I love when you can look into a guy's eyes and see his sensitivity, even though he may look tough and unphased on the outside. Love love love that! Feels like you can see his secret...

Ok, so emotional “hotness” — i find that's when a guy can talk about his feelings. When he can be honest. When he can entice ME to talk about MY emotions (which we all know is tough for me). When he can help ME deal with emotions by talking it out instead of shutting down and/or walking away.
I'm trying my best to be a good communicator in all my current relationships (with my guy, my girls & my work) because it's the key to ANY successful relationship. But it's hard. And for me, if i'm around people who ask questions and invite me to talk, i will be a better person.

What do you guys find physically and emotionally attractive? In men or women! I'd like to know! I'll be reading your comments below!

— Roxy xo

Ask me anything

Got My F*** Cancer Tshirt!

Finally got my tshirt! SO excited about my outfit today, FUCK CANCER tee and white washed jeans! YEAH BABY! Checkout the links to buy a tshirt like this on my last post @ http://roxysrendezvous.blogspot.com/2010/08/fuck-cancer.html
 

If your significant other cheated on you, is it a dealbreaker or a second chance is a possibility?

Great question. My answer = Dealbreaker.
My ex cheated. Not that he would admit it. But there was enough evidence to make it clear to me that i didn't deserve to be with someone who would go behind my back and lie to me. Especially with his ex! If someone can do that once, he could easily do it again. I can't judge all relationships, but in my opinion, if a guy's a jerk, he's always a jerk!
— Roxy xo

Ask me anything

inspire yourself

This inspirational note helps me get through the day... Originally written by galadarling.com. I just prettied it up a little ;)

So I Have An Online Stalker...

Ok so you would think that you've “made it” in the blogger world when you have a stalker right? Wrong. I have an online stalker, and this is not glamorous at all. Actually he doesn't even deserve all the “press” i'm giving him. I just figured i'd share since many of my friends are worried. lol

So he's this guy who i started chatting with on Zoosk (in the short time i was on that site). I literally chatted with him for like 10 mins. Totally nothing. Generic conversation. Nothing of great importance. My #1 mistake, i added him as my Facebook friend. (mental note = don't do this!)  I wanted to check out HIS profile. Guy's profiles give you soooo much information, and it's a quick way to see if you're even remotely interested. This guy was a quick one, i wasn't interested. He was the “super proud french Italian from Laval type”. Sorry to be stereotypical, but honestly it was a bit ridiculous. Even in his pictures, there was bling, hair gel and car shots. No Thanks was my initial reaction. And honestly, my intuition about him was dead on.

So, like i said, we chatted for 10 minutes. That was that. But he wouldn't let go. He wrote me email messages for days. I didn't see them until 5 days later , when i got around to checking my messages.
5 messages from Diego (fake name don't worry).
The first one was nice: “ I had a super nice convo with you on msn the other day, hope to talk to you soon”.
Later that same day: “Can't wait to talk to you again”.
Ok, that's still nice...
Second day “ When are you coming on MSN? It's the same time as we chatted yesterday and i'm waiting for you. I'll hang out all night if i have to”
Third day: “ ...you never came online yesterday. I don't understand. What did i do? Are you not interested? You changed your status on facebook , so i know you're online.”

Fourth day. Message from Diego: “ stop avoiding me.”

Reading all these messages, i was not going to respond... All i thought was “freak”.
Then i went on Facebook. He had written comments on my photos, on my status updates, on everything he could possibly get his hands on. And then there were the Facebook messages:

“hey bella.... I was thinking, how about we exchange numbers so atleast we can get some txting going on.. some communication would be ideal.. here is my cell....”

“aiight this sucks.. guess I lost ur interest sorry I was excited in getting to know you.. you could of just told me u werent that interested.. I would of understood.. well good luck to you sweet you seem like an amazing girl..”

I felt bad at this point, so i wrote back just saying that i had alot going on right now (which was the truth) and was MIA. I wasn't going to be on MSN for a while, and either way , i didn't think i even owed him an explanation. We didn't know each other and i wasn't interested in starting anything up with him.

Then i got non stop emails:

“I'm in idiot lol. Cause I saw ur profile in the recent activities side think u had time to go and write something on ur profile so I was like fine. Don't reply to my message but go on zoosk. So I wrote ur a message.. So after sending it I see ur on recent activity cause someone sent u a gift. I'm an idiot sorry. I was like how do u retract a message on facebook.”

“Wow what a great first impression I'm making...my bad, and I'm sorry about that. can we just forget that stupid message I sent you and act like it never happened, I would really appreciate that.”

“I should of checked carefully.. I'm a type of person that isn't afraid of letting people know how I feel cause I like to talk about it...communication is important. Just want to say sorry once again and I hope u still want to get to know me.”

I REMOVED HIM as a friend because the emails just didn't stop. This was all the same day. Then the messages kept coming...

“hey hows it going?

“look I saw a beautiful girl I got excited about and really wanted to get the ball rolling and I messed up.. can I have another chance in getting to know you please?”

I know he SOUNDS nice, but just the tone of these emails and their frequency are really bothersome. So i blocked him on Facebook. But then just the other day i got this email in my Hotmail account. He must have jotted down all my info before i removed him! Freaky!

The latest one says: “hey how you been.. you look stunning in that pic.. so whats new?”

AS IF i'm going to answer him!!!! He's acting like an online stalker, but thank god he doesn't know my address! You got to be so careful what you put on the internet! & Diego if you're also stalking my blog, read this and GO AWAY!! I'm NOT interested!!

What Fills Your Heart?

eek i'm 29!

Ok so i turned 29 last week...
It's just now i realize that i have to rewrite all my descriptions for Blogger, my About Me page, my Twitter account, and my Facebook Fan Page. Gosh... how am i going to word this?!

Here are a few ideas:

“ I'm 29, dating and FREAKING OUT because next year i'm 30!” ok maybe that's not very smooth...

“I'm a 29 year old single gal, looking for love... or at least a good date! I'm trying not to think about my lifeplan i made up when i was 10, about where i was going to be when i turned 30... trying very hard... but can't help but hear the ticking every once and a while...” HAHA no, that's depressing

Ok so instead let's write it something like this:

“I'm 29, i'm single, and (most the time) i'm lovin it!! Life is short, it's time to do the things you love! My friends are my heart, my family is my rock, i have a fabulous apartment in the city, and i have a crazy dating life! Follow along as the craziness continues! ”

 What do you guys think? Good to go? ;)

Health, love & happiness.

Bday weekend!

I don't really know where to start with this recap of the crazy bday weekend i had. Everything that COULD have been disastrous ended working out fine, and all in all, i had a great night/weekend!

Originally, this post was going to carry the main message: that i REALLY am not drinking anymore. But looking at my literary for NEXT weekend … that message would end up being a lie. HAHA Next weekend i'm visiting a good friend in Toronto, and she's organized a special wine touring day, that evidently, includes ALOT of wine!! But i figure, it's not binge drinking, so i should be fine. ;) Let's see if my liver feels differently.

So getting back to this past weekend.
Friday was an awesome supper with my closest friends. Reservations were a disaster with Vauvert. I will never book there again. Loved the restaurant the last time i went, but the way they handled my reservation this time was really disappointing.

What happened was: Thursday night, i had to find another restaurant within 24hrs on GrandPrix weekend for 15 people, because Vauvert were suddenly insisting on charging 75$ per person for a special Porsche evening! ( i'd had reservations for over 2 weeks and this was never mentioned previously to me) AGH! Impossible to find somewhere new! Restos in the West Island were laughing at me over the phone! Thank god for having great connections, otherwise everything would have been cancelled! A good colleague/friend of mine helped me out during my hour of crisis, and got me reservations in the Old Port at a resto called GRANGE. If you're ever looking for a place with great drinks, great food and amazing service, on the cusp of the Old Port (McGill), you should go to this place. Freakin awesome! I give it rave reviews! and i think my friends would agree. thanks Ari for hooking it up -- it was an awesome birthday present!

The night was perfect. All my friends made it, even my BFF who had heart surgery last tuesday was there! What a trooper! I am so happy to simply see her smile again :) My sister made it on crutches. My brother who's usually MIA made a huge effort to come as well: out of his normal routine of downtown college bars ;) Even my suburban friends found a babysitter for the night -- sweet !

So, then there was family day on Saturday i won't bore everyone with those details. But we did watch the World Cup England game, that was slightly disappointing with Green's performance (click to see) I can't bear to watch it again.. My heart goes out to the guy… really embarrassing. I don't care if his girlfriend broke up with him right before; there's no excuse for letting that goal in!

So, Saturday night, the party was on again. This time, at a friends place who just moved to the downtown core. Literally on the corner of Sherbrooke and St.-Laurent. It was insane with the Grand Prix parties everywhere. We cabbed it there and back, with my sister on crutches and the city in gridlock. It was fun! You should SEE the place this girl has -- i'm jealous E!  By the time the night ended, i had to crash on my sisters couch...

The whole next day was horrible with hangover sickness…

I'm 29 now… my body has spoken. It hates alcohol… 

...and unfortunately, it's now making me listen to it's nonsense. A few glass of wine with dinner (or at a wine tasting!), but no more than that… I've turned over a new leaf. The damage it does to my body and feeling of the day after just isn't worth it anymore :( Sorry peeps; there's many of you who love 'drunk Roxy' , but this is definitely the end of an era.

Diary Post

I'm starting to feel like my blog is my diary. I never wanted to get this personal with hundreds of web users.

But here i am. Always pouring my heart out...

This time it's hard to say why.
It's overwhelming.

The amount of news i've heard in the last 7 weeks has been crazy. Up and down, and down and up and then down again. To tell the truth. There hasn't been much positive. Except my best friend being a home with her heart in place at right this second (♥ U), and me meeting The Frenchie. And of course a few other happy announcements here and there :) But I have to say, at least my dating scene hasn't been a disaster (or isn't yet). I do feel myself backing away though; because i'm sad. And when i'm sad, i'm even more independent than usual. Which honestly, is really quite problematic.

I just don't want to push him away. Because i kinda like him. And you know, he's kinda cool. And yes, kinda WOW too. lol

Communication is key, right Bruce? You've told me enough times. So has Tash... I have great friends who know me well, and want to see me succeed at this thing called love. Now i just have to figure it out on my end.

I'll try. But i just needed to say, for the record, that i'm sad, and i'm trying my best to be there for everyone xo And we're going to have some drinks tomorrow night. Some much needed drinks.

When i'm Drunk....

Going out and celebrating the HABS victory last night (YAAAA BABYYY!!!!!!) reminded me that Roxy + drinking can lead to some bad things. Here's a short list of "Roxy-drinking-risks"...
It's entitled:  When I'm Drunk...

• My phone should be taken away from me, or at least have a “sober test” programmed in!
• I LOVE Jack ;) although i do love JD sober too...
• I like to skip!
• I call all kinds of random people from my phone book (hence the need for the “sober test”!)
• I love all my friends so much that i sometimes start to cry
• I slap people
• ... just because i think it's hilarious...
• People usually luuurve “Drunk Roxy” (unless i'm slapping THEM!)
• Now that i'm close to 30: I should not mix, or i WILL be sick.
• I shake my booty like you've never seen a white girl shake it before!
• I end up on the floor when I've had one too many (ahem... New Year's 2007)
• I have almost thrown a 3 year old into a bonfire...
• I have held a wine glass with my toes and had someone drink from it
• I have had a light-saber fight (and won)
• I have dislocated my knee, more than once...
• I have given many lapdances (to some VERY lucky people!)
• Many times, I have regretted my actions the next morning
• I have told my ex-mother-in-law that i was going to have her son's children in 4 years from then! (hence the regretting my actions...)
• My true feelings usually come out
• And i always always always feel like crap the next morning
  
  
  

  Moral of the story? I need to stop drinking!

What Makes Me Happy

When dates are few and far between, we have to remind ourselves of all the things that make us happy :) Here's my list; with the help of a few friends (Val, Erin, KT, +++):

• chocolate 
• wine 
• good food 
• shopping with the girls 
• succeeding at work
• trying new things 
• my friends happiness&success 
• sunshine
• loud MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC while driving my car
• getting my hair&nails done
• a random cute guy smiling at me
• having a clean car: in and out!
• paying a big chunk off my Visa!
• or getting my Visa bill and realizing I spent less than I thought!
• getting a hug
• someone telling me they love me
• weekend at the cottage with great friends 
• snuggling
• my godson's smile
• lacy underthings (especially from Blush!)
• platform pumps (...drool... you should see the new ones i just bought!!)
• dreaming...

So, now you know my secrets,
but what makes YOU happy?!

I am Thankful...

I was writing back and forth to a friend the other day, talking about how i was feeling down. We all do sometimes. It's normal. Especially at this time of year... the winter blues have set in.

She made me realize, however, how much i have to be thankful for. It's important to me, and probably to us all, that we remind ourselves of things that are great in our life.

Little things, big things. We need to have appreciation of everything in our lives. 

Here are a few of the things i am thankful for today... What are yours?

1. My mom --- it's her birthday today!
2. The adrelaline rush cheerleading stunts give me when i don't get injured...
3. Having a job to go to on a Monday morning even if i don't WANT to get up on a Monday morning
4. My new Matt & Nat purse  hmmm did i not mention that i went shopping last week? 
5. My hot athletic therapist i'm seeing tonight  for treatment purposes only i swear ;)

Roxy's Ramblings

Roxy's “solo” once again...

From ROXY

So folks... as most of you have been anticipating from my status updates and tweets... Tiger and I have officially split. It's sad. I'm sad. But, i'll be ok.

Nothing dramatic to talk about really. We were good together... until we weren't anymore. It was mutual, so there's no hard feelings... but it still sucks to have someone confirm that they don't want to be with you. He's got hurt in the past, and so have I (as you all know!) ... so i think that alone prevented us from opening up to one another. And also, i guess we just weren't meant to be!

It's just hard... how do you go from one relationship to the next... open up and just keep getting hurt...? No wonder us girls become so independent and self-reliant. We surround ourselves with the best girlfriends in the world so that you always have a soft, comforting, great-smelling cushion to fall back on ;) (yes chicas, you're my sexy cushions!)

I guess... one day, with the right guy, “love” WON'T bite you in the ass. But, so far, I've never made it that far... I have a few scars, and they will continue to heal as i move on.

Dating again will happen, just not sure with whom! It's so easy to get wrapped up in a new relationship, and be a hermit with the cold weather. I think i'll focus on seeing my friends and family and not worry about the whole dating thing right now.

Spring's will be on it's way soon anyway, right?! ;)

Stay tuned girls, sounds like 2010 will be a whole new chapter for Roxy! xo

I was the disaster of the Office xmas party!

Well, the festivities have begun! The Xmas parties, the decorations, the alcohol! My office xmas party that was this past Friday... And oh my. Things got out of hand... I blame it firstly on the nervousness of the fashion show i participated in, secondly on the bartender who fed me mixed drinks (Bram!) at the bar. And i know it was my decision to GO to the bar—but partial blame is on my friend Finnie here!... he half dragged me (and half held me up while i was skipping). Oh my.

What happened from then on, i don't even remember. Luckily i was surrounded by wonderful people who took care of me for the next few hours. One of my best friends, who was also wasted, managed to contact Tiger to pick me up, organize my millions of bags, get my winter jacket and boots on me, and single handedly support me out to the waiting car in 5 inch heals and party dress. It was minus 20 Friday night and extremely icy... Did i forget to mention i love you A? xo

Ok so from then on i don't know what happened. I woke up the next morning in my pyjamas with Tiger's arms around me in bed. It took a second for the sickness to register with my brain, before i had to run to the bathroom. Really not fun. I kept getting flashes of the night before through the splitting headache. I groaned when i remembered being sick in the office bathroom... thank god for an awesome girl from Web, who hardly knows me, but took care of me while i was feeling sick at the party. And who helped me get to the bathroom in time before making a complete fool of myself. Man oh man. Thank you chica! I owe you one!

I still don't know all the details of the party. I'm sure i will be the butt of jokes tomorrow at work... I spoke to a few co-workers/friends this weekend and already heard a few stories. I danced. Apparently alot. It was my good friend James held me up while i danced. And there were pictures. Lots of pictures.

Great.

And apparently i have a great new friendship with the receptionist... of whom i didn't even know her name until Friday night. Hi Diana. Hope we had fun. lol

Anyway, i thought i'd share my experiences, and let you know that Roxy's drinking days are officially over. To that degree anyway! I can't get drunk like that anymore. It hurts too much the next day. And i have too many good, important people in my life (to name a few, J, A, Tiger...) who shouldn't have to take care of me like that! So, i'm sorry peeps, you know i love you all more than anything and you're all getting nice big xmas gifts xo

The Videotron Guy

Most don't know, but a little while ago, i moved from an apt full of roomates (i love you girls) to a cute little apt all by myself. This now means that i have to take care of myself all by my lonesome. My sinlge girls know that sometimes that task can be rather tedious...

When i first moved in, one of the things i had to take care of was my TV and internet connection.

Roxy needs her internet! :)

So, one Saturday morning, i hear a knock at the door, and in front of me was a sexy Spanish guy. “I'm here to install your Videotron 'mam”.

Are you kidding me?

From ROXY

Immediately, i could hear all my friends comments about the Spanish Pool Boy/Gardener fantasies in my head. He was tall, with long dark hair in a ponytail, standard Videotron jumpsuit, tanned skin, dark eyes and shiny pearly teeth. He was grinning at me as he entered my home.

Installation was going to take a while, so he told me to continue whatever i was doing prior to his arrival (which was watching Sex And The City episodes) and he'd try to stay out of my way. I've never questioned watching SATC before. I mean, it's my favorite show, but today, while sitting on the couch, with Pablo (i SWEAR that was his name!!!) fixing wires to my right, and Samantha (from SATC from those who don't watch the program) having orgasms to my left... i kinda wish i had something else playing in my trusty DVD player!

I tried to FFWD through the sex scenes without him noticing, but his grins on his face indicated that he knew what i was doing. It was already awkward enough sitting there while he wound wires around my apt, without hearing Samantha's and Charlotte's sex moans and groans...

And all I kept thinking was: OMG Samantha would totally DO this guy right here!

And it seemed pretty clear that HE would have totally been into it! Let's just say... Pablo was very... very friendly.

He kept saying my name over and over again with a Spanish accent. I couldn't help but giggle (i mean what else are you supposed to do?). Esp when he insists that he's installed the internet “so good”....“i promise you... i'm so good”...“but ...Roxy, you call me if sometin' not working ok? I be here in a second...” ;)

THEN his phone rang, and SUAVE MENTE starting blaring, and i couldn't help laughing when his hips starting swaying to the beat. Who would have thought the Videotron guy would be dancing around my living room?! But hey! It's me! I attract this kind of randomness!

He was soon gone after ending his Spanish conversation with the unknown caller. A few winks and hip shimmies in my direction, and some teases about programming my Illico box in Spanish, and he was on his way to the next lucky lady! Who knew having Videotron installed would be so much fun?!
Only my life!!