10 REASONS I'm not married (?!)

So recently i was reading an interesting article called: 10 REASONS YOU'RE NOT MARRIED by Jenna Stone. I first clicked on it as a joke and then i started really analyzing her points.  LOL C'mon, i'm not married... it wouldn't hurt to know WHY!! ;)

Jenna Stone, did her homework and consulted the experts: Dr. Amir Levine, co-author, with Rachel Heller, of the book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find -- And Keep --Love. A book, which after reading the article, i'd be pretty interested in reading.

“There is a science of how people behave in romantic situation, it's called adult attachment, only the studies have never been translated to everyday life use up until now.” —Levine

This book talks to three main attachment styles:

1. Anxious - people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back. 
2. Avoidant - people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
3. Secure - people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Find out which style you and/or your partner have: click here to take the author's quiz.
Trust me! It might open your eyes about how you treat your relationships. I know it did for me.
So, back to the summary of Jenna Stone's 10 points about possibly why I'm not married :

1. Believing that playing hard to get will get them interested 
2. You're trying too hard. 
3. Thinking neediness is bad. 
4. You're stuck in a situationship. 
5. You're stuck on ''the one'' -- You have an ideal relationship in mind and won't let it go. 
6. You get addicted to highs and lows. You equate anxiety with passion and love. 
7. You're fixated on your mythological ex. 
8. You get stuck in a relationship with an impossible future. Long-distance, married, ''it's complicated.” 
9. You stay home, hoping they'll drop from the sky. 
10. You decide there has to be instant animal attraction, otherwise you're wasting your time.

Do any of these sound like you? I have to say quite a few resonated with me... i guess there's actually an explanation to why i'm not married, and these experts seem to have a few reasons why! All i can say, is that no one's perfect and i'm doing my best along the way! And... i'll buy this book and see what the hell i can do to avoid failure in the future!! hehehe

Happy Valentine's Chicas!

Happy Valentine's Day to my chicas! All of you: married, finacéed, coupled up, divorced, single and yes, chicas in those complicated situations too!

Photo from Wildfox. 

Valentine's COULD be an unbearable “holiday” to us single girls, but you can choose to make it great. I think if you're surrounded by great friends, family and cute kids (ahem. my godson), then your Valentine's Day can be complete! For me, I am thankful for my BFF who's having me over for a romantic supper “à trois” tonight — me, her and hubby!! xx

Ok... i know you're saying “cut the bullshit Roxy” -- we're all wishing for a Secret Admirer, or roses at the office, or Prince Charming to show up at our door, but what I say is : “Get real!” Why would it happen today of all days? Guys HATE Valetine's Day with a passion, so unless he's forced to, he won't devote his love to you today!

Plain and simple. No expectations = no disappointments = have a great day regardless of “him”! Celebrate ALL the loves in your life! 

++If you want a good story and laugh today: read my last year's Valentine Disaster!
Kiss a stranger, spread the love ;)

Is HE cheating on YOU?

Ok so there's this article i found from MADEMEN that i think everyone in a relationship should read. It's called “Is she cheating on you?”.

Reading this was interesting because the advice is from a male perspective, and about “women cheaters”. Honestly though, the advice stands for women as well. We may be of different sex but we all act the same if and when we're being dishonest. The change in behavior is evident, whether you're a girl or guy. Suddenly He (or She!) is Just Not That Into You!! lol

I have to say, from someone perspective who's been there and had someone cheat on me, i think it's a very conscientious article on how things crumble when someone's dishonest. So, read up on the 5 signs! I'm not saying to be over-suspicious, i just want all my chicas protected. I listened to my gut when it was time to, and am better off for it :)

SJP gives some love advice

I ♥ Sarah Jessica Parker!
I'll take love/life advice from her any day!

Read her Love Advice To Twenty-Somethings