10 ways to feel positive when the man you love walks away...

1. Spring is around the corner (even though you would never think so with all the snow today...)
2. There is always ONE friend on any given night that needs a drink just as badly as you do
3. Your heart’s been broken before and you got over it. So, the comfort in knowing that this too shall pass.
4. Knowing deep down that he will miss you sometimes. Even if it is just for the amazing sex (he is a guy after all).
5. Thinking of all the next “firsts” that are to come for you... first flirts... first dates... first kisses... first butterflies... first nights ;)
6. Knowing that you’re one step closer to finding someone who can give you what you want... someone who will want to share their life with you...
7. Extra reason to look hot when you go out on Saturday nights, or when you go to the grocery store!
8. Nights at home just means that you’re getting your money’s worth of your mattress you bought 6 months ago and your new flatscreen TV.
9. Knowing that the guy who will eventually love you is out there feeling miserable without you, and in a terrible relationship right now!
10. And finally, realizing that your life is already full of love: from friends, family and your godson’s sweet kisses.

Happy Valentine's Chicas!

Happy Valentine's Day to my chicas! All of you: married, finacéed, coupled up, divorced, single and yes, chicas in those complicated situations too!

Photo from Wildfox. 

Valentine's COULD be an unbearable “holiday” to us single girls, but you can choose to make it great. I think if you're surrounded by great friends, family and cute kids (ahem. my godson), then your Valentine's Day can be complete! For me, I am thankful for my BFF who's having me over for a romantic supper “à trois” tonight — me, her and hubby!! xx

Ok... i know you're saying “cut the bullshit Roxy” -- we're all wishing for a Secret Admirer, or roses at the office, or Prince Charming to show up at our door, but what I say is : “Get real!” Why would it happen today of all days? Guys HATE Valetine's Day with a passion, so unless he's forced to, he won't devote his love to you today!

Plain and simple. No expectations = no disappointments = have a great day regardless of “him”! Celebrate ALL the loves in your life! 

++If you want a good story and laugh today: read my last year's Valentine Disaster!
Kiss a stranger, spread the love ;)

Another one bites the dust

So, i've been wrestling in my head for a week about how to write a blog post without sounding like a girl who just got her heart broken… again.
But at this point, “it is what it is”. That's what happened. Yes… again.

The funny thing is, that this time, i was so cautious going into this relationship, that it almost never got off the ground. I was so guarded. I was so skeptical. And I was so careful with my heart, but the second i gave it away, it got broken anyway… that should surely teach me something, right?!

Mid-week last week i was preparing a “positive post” to distract me from all the sadness i was feeling. I had made plans to distract myself every minute of every day. I didn't need ANY time to think… but God works in mysterious ways and i got the flu. A brutal flu. So, i'm now on day #5 of lying in bed and neurotically thinking about every detail of the last 6 months of my relationship…

The hopeless romantic in me couldn't help but think… that maybe he'd show up at my place with flowers and NeoCitran and declare his love for me. Lol But who are we kidding?! That's not happening, so the daydreams and feverish delusions stop here!

Today, it's been like a slap in the face. Finally, after 5 days of thinking, i realize: he doesn't love me , he can't commit to me… so why hold my breath about reconciliation? God knows i've done that in the past for many others, and where'd it ever get me? Nowhere. Just more disappointed… So this time i've got to be stronger, and just accept that he's just not THAT into me, and move on.

Right now i'm feeling like, what's the point of ever trying this again? But i know, from experience, that life moves on, this won't hurt so much in a few months from now, Spring will come and new hope will arise. And the next guy who melts my icy heart, might actually be ready and love me for who i am.

Ok back to bed now…that was enough effort one day!

Gives Me Hope

Today i discovered the GMH website. WARNING: only look at this site when you have time, i guarantee you'll get swept away for hours! 

GMH is short for Gives Me Hope.

You have to read their site to understand; some posts are just so sad they make you cry, whereas others can put a huge smile one your face... People's messages definitely do Give You Hope.
This site might even be helpful for a few friends of mine who went through something really really devastating this past week. When the moment's right, it might help them regain their strength and faith. The passages are just snip-its from people's everyday lives, little moments that have given them hope, and they are choosing to share with the world.

Here's a few examples that touched my heart; they are sad, and sometimes morbid, but they remind you of how precious life is, and that we must appreciate the moments we do have to live:

 “I woke up one morning to hear the birds outside my window and my mother cooking breakfast downstairs. I've never cried so much in my entire life. I had been deaf since the age of 8. ”

 “Today, I found GMH. After reading all the heartwarming stories, I walked into my room, and tore my suicide journal to shreds. I'm shaking out of happiness. GMH. ”

“My dad would always start out conversations with''Do you have a girlfriend yet?''
After laughing and saying no hundreds of times I finally found the courage to tell him I was gay. After a long silence and a stressed out face or two, he calmly said, "Oh. Well.... Do you have a boyfriend yet?"
His fair love GMH.”


GMH also has a few sister sites too: 
Love Gives Me Hope (if u want to feel all gooey inside)
&
OMG Facts


Keep the faith xo

let it snow let it snow let it snow!

Maybe last night's mini-snow-storm will brighten the spirits of some of us Montrealers who are suffering from the winter blues... or maybe it'll just cause more traffic on Decarie.

My 3 & Their Weddings

So, one of my best friends is planning her wedding for next September, and will probably be preggers the morning after. I'm having a blast helping her with anything she needs :)

Wedding planning is REALLY a fun time with a close friend. I've been through it twice in the past and it's some of the fondest memories i hold dear... Wedding dress shopping, invitation designing, paper cutting!! and gluing !! (table placings, thank you cards, invitations), bridesmaid dress shopping (and arguing!), bridal shower planning, bachelorette craziness!, the hair, the makeup and looking super fabulous together :)



This wedding will pretty much wrap up all the “coupling up” of my closest friends. My other 2 best friends got married almost 3 years ago now, both have wonderful houses, dedicated husbands; one has a 17 month yr old (my cutie godson), and the other is beautifully preggers (due this May). I love these 3 girls to death ♥ K,A&J xo

I consider myself sooo lucky to have these chiquitas in my life, among the handful of other super amazing friends i have. I think you get to a point in your life when you realize how lucky you really are to have people around who love you. Who love you for WHO you are. No makeup, no fronting.

They love you on the worst days; when your mascara's running down your face, when you're so plastered you can't put on your own boots, or when all you want to do is call the ex that broke your heart. I don't know what i would do without my friends.

I hope one day, to be planning a wedding of my own... I'm not convinced that's ever going to happen at this point, but “my 3” are, so it gives me hope. I know i will have the best bridesmaids in the world, because they've all gone through the steps. And they also all know that i hate “planning”, so i'll have tons of help there! My awesome sister, who i haven't mentioned in this post because she deserves a post all to herself, will one day be my beautiful maid of honor. And even though she doesn't have the experience yet, of wedding planning, maybe by then she will have! Either way, she knows me in and out, so to have her by my side will be the biggest re-assurance i could ask for.

I consider myself an extremely lucky girl to be a part of these girls lives. And i hope they know how much i love them.

If YOU feel lucky to have great friends in your life, don't forget to tell them. Tell them right now. In person, through a phone call, an email, a text, or in a blog post! Tell them. They deserve to know how amazing they are.

LOVE YOU ALL xox
Thank you Val for always being there for me, for helping me get back on my feet, through all the drama and heartache. For the Godiva chocolates on the days i need a long-distance hug, and for inviting me to TO everytime i need to escape my life! Thank you Julie for being there to heal my broken heart, when i had hurt you more without realizing it...
Thank you Jo for being there and making me get out of bed when i didn't want to go on... Thank you Katie for taking me into your family, cooking me supper, driving me anywhere and everywhere, being there whenever i need a shoulder to cry on, or just some company. Thank you Anastasia&Kiran for being so protective and loving me so much, regardless of my craziness, and making me the Godmother of your amazing child! Thank you James for being a guy that i can trust and lean on when everything seems to go wrong in my day. And for taking care of me the next day when YOU get me plastered the night before!!! Thank you Suli for being able to understand the trials and tribulations of being single! We'll make it through this together! lol

Refresh, Renew, Re-Love

I read this article mid-summer and i ripped it out and pinned it on my board at home. It's message continues to stick with me to this day. Sometimes is takes a little article like this to believe in yourself and open your mind to loving someone new, or at least enjoying the journey! I hope that by passing this message on and it inspires one of you :)

REFRESH, RENEW, RE-LOVE
--Living Life and Loving It--



To most people change is scary. I am not afraid of changes; it makes life challenging. After break-ups you think you'll never love again. You think, “I will be alone for the rest of my life”. But really, people are alone because they choose to be. If you're looking for Mr.Perfect, you will be alone forever. You should always be open to meeting new people and dating should always be fun and exciting. Don't set your mind on a type. I have set people up with complete opposite of their type and some of those have been my most successful fix ups.

After a separation or break-up, people need to detox. Take some time to yourself. Enjoy time at the gym, spa, eating healthy, get your hair styled and start looking your best all over again. Don't forget those manicures and pedicures. everyone should feel beautiful from top to bottom. This re-vamp of appearance will help compliment the amazing morals, heart and soul that were there the whole time.

Don't be so fast to judge other people's opinions. They might have been dumped by the person they're judging or that person might remind them of someone who hurt them. They liked someone and the feelings weren't reciprocated. Your situation might be different.

Remember: there is someone for everyone and the world is pretty small.

So unless you see his or her picture on the “Most Wanted” list, don't panic and run away. Give it a shot. Make a great first impression.

Everyone should be open to think outside the box. Try and date someone who is not the typical man or woman. Try eating food that you could never imagine trying. As a kid, my mother traveled to Japan and used to send me postcards telling me how she ate raw fish everyday. I would imagine her eating someone's goldfish out of their aquarium, only to grow up and realize she was referring to sashimi! I actually tried it on my first blind date.

Life should be like you're at a cocktail party every day. Try a bit of everything and see how fun life can be!

— Susan Alper (LuxuryReportMagazine.com)
http://www.susanalperproductions.com/