The Dominican Dance

Recently, i took a trip to Punta Cana, my friend and I decided we had been work-a-holics for too long without taking a well-deserved break. We booked 2 weeks before leaving at an amazing 5-star Spa & Suites Resort. We crammed in tons of work in those 2 weeks, packed our bags the day before, and then, poof! were gone before we knew it.

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My friend and I have many complicated boy issues here at home... so our main focus was to relax, drink cocktails on the beach, get an awesome tan and forget about the men of Montreal! I'm happy to say that we managed to reach all these goals while away!

One great distraction were the Dominican men... some were good looking , some were built, but mostly they just made us laugh!!! Now, i'm not trying to be mean, because some of them were nice guys... but cmon' all single girls who have gone down south know that Resort Animators only think of one thing: sex.sex.sex.

My friend and I were definitely up for a good time, but not the same good time these guys were looking for. Let me describe :: The Dominican Dance.

At the disco, all tourists, animators and locals gather to let loose and dance. Since dancing is one of my favorite things, i tore up the dance floor quite a few nights during our stay ;) After a few nights, my friend and i got quite annoyed of the way Dominican guys approach us on the dancefloor.

It starts off with them looking at you from across the room: this is the foreplay. By the time they've got to you, they think they're on second base... You, however, are just thinking: “Oh No, who is this loser walking towards me?”.
Then there's maybe one or two dance steps before they literally take your hips and start thrusting! From behind or in front... doesn't matter. They even do it from the side! I wish i could show you a video of how it looks: your body is being thrown back and forth in a shocking manner!

The first night at the disco, this guy called Mosquito, one of our hotel animators, who was super flirty with me, danced with me this way. I pushed him off repeatedly until he left me alone. He came back minutes later with an important question:

did i like men?

My friend and I laughed our ass off! I just kept thinking that my sister would be so proud of me! In Mosquito's mind, if i didn't like his fabulous-thrusting-dance-moves, i was most certainly gay! Needless to say, Mosquito got stung, and his ego was too bruised to to even talk to me for the rest of the trip... LOSER

Here are a few of the Dominican Stars we met on our trip!

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By the end of the week, my friend and i were quite content to come home to our regular messed up men-of-montreal, who actually have the decency of dancing with us on the dancefloor!

The guy who is complicated...

So... i just got home from my date, and i don't know whether to feel disappointed or relieved... Here's the story.

Mr.Complicated is his name... and trust me, he is in a SERIOUSLY complicated situation.

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We met a few months ago, at a club (ok you can roll your eyes here). I normally don't give out my number to guys at clubs, but he seemed different. Both our groups of friends jived really well the whole evening, he bought us all drinks, he was cute, funny, had amazing blue eyes, and he was really fun to dance with. ...Did i mention he wore a baseball cap and was totally cute? ;) ... n e way... moving on...
We exchanged numbers and started texting that night. Then emailing all week... Finally, when we were about to set our first date he broke some rather disturbing news...

...that he still lived with his ex-girlfriend, whom he shared a house with ... and had a 2 yr old son!

He is happy with this living situation. He doesn't feel the desire to move out quite yet, because he doesn't want to lose access to his son. In a few years he hopes to buy a duplex in the city , in which him and his ex can both live separately, but share custody easily of his son..... hmm

Me, being the cool-Roxy I am, told him straight-up that i was looking for someone who wasn't just playing around and who could at least potentially become someone who shared the same desires as me (house, kid...one day). Problem is that he already had everything i would eventually want... but with someone else. So, I decided to not see him and stay friends (if we could).

Somehow, we ended up talking by email almost everyday , for close to 2 months. We have great email-chemistry (that does exist i swear!). And i'll admit that about a month ago, i caved, and met up with him at a club with a bunch of my friends. But I have to say, we had an awesome time and nothing more came of it.
But finally, last week we mutually decided that: what was the point of talking over email (and flirting) if we were never going to go on that first date? So... with a few worried friends, i ventured out to meet him tonight for a date.

Worst case scenario : that i'd love the guy: he'd be perfect, funny, cute (yes, he'd wear the baseball cap again!) and say all the right things... yet be unavailable to me, and i'd get in an extremely complicated situation.

“Best” thing: it would be a boring date and i'd realize that we actually have no chemistry in person, that he's not the one for me and move on. No more flirty emails.

So this leads me back to the beginning: i'm not sure how i feel about how our date went... we were at a pub, watching the Habs game (Go Habs Go!), ate nachos, drank jack&coke (my ♥ drink), he was funny, cute (baseball cap again!) and polite. He paid for the drinks and food without questioning. Super great.
But...... on the flip side, we talked about his ex-girlfriend, how he doesn't mind their living situation, how they have a contract that they've signed of things they both “can” and “can't” do

-- i'm pretty sure “new” girlfriends are not part of the “do” list :S --

And, at the end of the date, he didn't walk me to my car: i was parked far down a dark street and it was freezing!

So.. final decision... drum roll please... i've decided once and for all that he's just not worth it. Too many complications... I will, however, have to immediately stop all the flirty emails (those do make me smile tho...), and NOT think of his cute baseball cap. But all in all -- i'll definitely survive! And i think i'm better off trying my luck with someone who doesn't have quite so much baggage...

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Dating in the '80s VIDEO! LMAO

You guys will totally LMAO while watching this video from The Ellen Degeneres website: a hilarious '80s dating video!

From ROXY

http://ellen.warnerbros.com/2009/09/hilarious_80s_dating_videos.php

I have to say that i think the girls in the '80s had it harder than we do today! Ladies, please remind me of this video next time i'm complaining!

Online Dating Tip #1 -- take notes!

So, last winter, it was my mission to get my money's worth from my dating site! I started talking to lots of guys. More guys than i had time for! I actually had to keep a list of all the guys i was talking to, keeping track of where we were at in our “getting to know you stages”.

From ROXY

Anyone playing the field on a dating site knows what i'm talking about! ;)

I sometimes accidentally told guys the same story twice, or asked them the same question multiple times because i honestly just couldn't remember what they had already answered. Not the best way to meet people, and as you can imagine, it got to be quite confusing!

So, be prepared girls! If you're a hot tamale, these dating sites can be lots of fun, but also lots of work! And they can lead to alot of weirdos, so be selective in your choices of who you meet.
Keep notes and be safe! xo

The Guy Who Was Married....

So... rewind back to January earlier this year....
I was getting into the swing of this dating site... I was enjoying chatting to numerous guys, all who seemed super interested in meeting the “new” me. I was excited.

So, when my online crush asked me to meet, i could hardly wait! First date butterflies are the best! And this was my first “online” blind date -- a whole different ballgame!

He asked me for brunch, which was totally cute. For safety (yes even at brunch), my (amazing, but protective) sister was determined to have breakfast at the same resto as me. Just to make sure my online date wasn't an online wack-job. lol

He wasn't. I signaled my sister mid-way through the date so that she could leave whenever she felt like it, he was kinda cute. I thought i was lucky, because he seemed nice and sincere and normal...

...then the facebook research started...

And let me just say, that i didn't go out of my way to find out this info! It just fell into my lap with surprising ease. A best bud (no names, no worries chicas) figured out that she knew him from high school, casually mentioned his name to a few of her friends and BAM! Phone call back to me telling me to check my sources and facebook because this guy's MARRIED!

UH, WHAT?!

So, low and behold i nit-picked through his photos and there it was, plain as day, albums and albums that his friends still had posted of HIS wedding day!! He was still tagged in them, and it turned out that the wedding was merely 18months ago! ...strange... there had been no “ex” talk between us, and definitely no “wife”talk.

From ROXY

But, i tried to stay positive, as much as this new found info was surprising, i didn't let it take over our new found connection. I began to ask questions, to hint at things, so that he could open up at his own pace, but nada.

I even checked for tanlines, but there were none!! lol

So, i gathered that either he was in denial about the fact that he was most likely still married or separated and the ring was in a drawer somewhere; OR he just really didn't think it was relevant. Either way, i was beginning to think that he was irrelevant!

3rd date in, weeks later, and this just wasn't going anywhere anyway, so why trudge out this past? We parted ways and i never did ask him directly about his marriage.
Either way, i was now skeptical about how this “in depth” dating site had neglected to get me such vital info !

But i had bought a 3 month membership to the online site, and as my roomates put it — i'd better get my money's worth!!

So i joined a dating site...

So, you can imagine me.. 6 months after the biggest heartbreak of my life, trying to get back into this crazy world of dating. Like millions of other people, i joined an online dating site and was totally nervous about it! I didn't even tell my closest friends for a few weeks! I had never done anything like that before — but i took a New Year's resolution and blindly threw myself info the dating scene.

From ROXY

It was different...it was fun... and, as it turns out, it was a great way to re-connect with myself. I re-evaluated what i was looking for, what i wanted out of life, and what i enjoyed doing. All because of their one-million questions that took me HOURS to answer! These questions were “supposed” to set me up with my perfect match. Strangely enough, friends who had also joined the site shortly after me, were all setup with the SAME matches. So much for personality profiling! We'd all gone on dates with the same guys!

En tous cas, as you will see by reading my posts, this online dating site wasn't a complete bust. I met some very nice, respectable guys, had some funny experiences, and most importantly re-discovered yours truly.

Take a risk girls! You never know what you'll find! more to come!

All about me : Roxy

Hello all Sexy Chicas who are reading my new blog!
I invite you to read the few blog posts I have to get acquainted with me a little bit. I promise i'll get better at writing ;) I sometimes go too fast and forget important details: details you girls would like to know. (Got suggestions? contact me and lmk!)

But for starters, I can tell you a little bit about the real Roxy ;)

From ROXY

I'm 28 years old.... and starting to feel the close-to-30-itch... but at the same time, trying hard not to panic. I grew up, playing with my beautiful Barbies, thinking that by 24 i'd have found the man of my dreams; 25 i'd have the perfect house; 27 the babies will come, and by 30 i would just have the most blissful life.

Ya, no. I learnt quickly that life doesn't work that way.

I've had some pretty serious relationships in the past. First serious boyfriend lasted 3 years. The next one lasted 5 years. We lived together for 2 of those years. I thought moving in together was the most logical option, because i was 22... and i was due soon for my happily ever after right? Wrong. Things didn't work out that way. It ended one dark and gloomy xmas night. Seriously.

Then the dating world opened up to me. I had some funny experiences (we'll get to those), one significant long distance one (VERY long distance: Australia) , had the summer of my life, and in the end, met Mr.Perfect. Or... so i thought. He was everything i wanted in a nutshell, and then it ended abruptly right before our one year mark: with him seeing his ex behind my back and not being ready for the next steps in our relationship. He freaked out. It broke my heart. And thank god i had my friends and my sister to help me out of the gloom&doom. I'm proud to say, that it took a while, but i'm soooo over it.

So, then... that's where all the fun began! I've learnt that you have no idea what life's going to throw at you! It's been a rollercoaster of a year; good dates, bad dates, horrible dates, online dates, phone dates... u name it, i've been there. Heck, tomorrow i have a date in Granby! (no, not at the zoo, but that was my first thought too...lol)

My friends have enjoyed my dating stories so much that they couldn't wait for me to start this blog!! And i hope that all the ppl out there who don't know me personally, will come to enjoy my stories as if you're one of my friends. Feel free to write comments, you're own experiences and stories -- god knows that we've all had them!! You'll feel better knowing that you're not the only one looking for Mr.Right and finding Mr.Wrong all over the place!!

Enjoy the stories chicas and live life to the fullest! xo

the guy with the girlfriend!!! tabarnaq!

Ok so my blog isn't even up and running yet, but i'm posting this story because i just have to tell someone!
So, tonight i had (what i thought was going to be a hot date).
I've already dated this guy in the past. He's cute, he's nice...we dated for a little over a month, until his ex girlfriend declared her love for him... and she works with him... so ya. Not too interested in THAT. So i told him to have fun with her. That was that.

But we kept in touch , he's nice... he made me buy chicken on my own birthday celebration, but that's besides the point...
So tonight he practically begs me to come over; he's being all interested in seeing me, and honestly with my new found interest in just “having fun”, i thought it was a perfect start to all the good times...

little did i know

So midway through supper he's getting these text messages... then he needs to excuse himself to make a phone call. I can overhear. I'm not def. It's the ex... well, sorry no: his GIRLFRIEND. Except he didn't tell me this detail before me coming over and making efforst to look all cute!!

So, we finish supper, and all of a sudden she's at the door! Yes, she crashed our date. She walks in with her bags to stay the night, gives me a quick kiss hello (but it was more like who-they-hell-do-you-think-you-are kiss) and sat in his bedroom. I didn't even know what to say. We both led on that nothing changed and chit chatted a bit, but i sobered up from our bottle of wine VERY quickly,said my goodbyes and got the hell outta there!!! WTF

I'm sorry but these guys from Laval are so f-ed up!!!

Naughty Girl

One book that i HAVE to give props to, that i ♥ , and i will continuously quote from, is The Naughty Girl's Guide to Life (Tara Palmer-Tomkinson&Sharon Marshall).

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It's a book that i bought on holiday in the UK last year; to pass the time on my 8hr flight home. Little did i know what kind of impact this book would have on me!
This amazing book helped me get over a nasty breakup and got me “mentally prepared” to start dating again. It's a guide to being the most fabulous “you” you can be!

Thx Tara & Sharon ♥

Popped my blog cherry!

It's been a while now that a few of my friends have been telling me to write a book about all my crazy dates... In the past few years, i've got myself into some interesting situations... Mostly funny, always dramatic, and at times, quite unbelievable!

However, i'm not much of a writer. So, i've come to conclusion that a blog suits more my style and will be a fun outlet for my outrageous stories!

My married and attached friends admit that they live vicariously through my dates, and sometimes, i'm sure they're laughing at me, as well as with me! At the end of the day, you have to be able to laugh. I know i do!

So, now that you understand the purpose of my blog, i hope you have some great LMAO moments along with me!

Enjoy the stories and live life to the fullest!