inspire yourself

This inspirational note helps me get through the day... Originally written by galadarling.com. I just prettied it up a little ;)

so there's this guy...

Ok I don’t want to jinx anything or even say one word about it, but there’s this guy I’m crushing on. And we have a date tmrw night. I’m excited. Really excited. I don’t have a name for him, I don’t want to make up a name for him. He’s a friend of a friend, and I don’t want them to even know what’s happening between us... Weird of me, I know. That’s all for now. Wish me luck! xo

sex-a-licious

how can a girl NOT want this lingerie? WOW she's hot.

Agent Provocateur - "Love Me Tender" in HD from Greg Williams on Vimeo.

The Goose Got Loose!

Here's an email i got from one of my avid readers, Lara -- poor girl! Her story is one that needs to be shared with the world!

Hey Roxy,

The depths of my dating experiences are somewhat limited, but I now officially have a date night story for the books!


So I was chatting online with this guy one night and he seemed normal enough, decent sense of humor, he suggested meeting for a quick drink. I was hesitant at first, but I thought what the hell why not. We met and had a nice time, but kept it brief as it was a week night. The next day he asked if I was interested in joining him for a movie at his apartment.
While normally I wouldn’t agree to a movie night in so quickly, based on his behavior on the initial date, I thought he seemed reasonable and was a gentleman. 

I arrive at his apartment, and it is clean and well kept, not bad for a bachelor. We start watching the movie and a little while into it, he goes in for a kiss, but then I turned my attention back to the movie. A few minutes later he does it again. This goes on time and time again, and slowly he starts getting more hands on. I started to push him away, and he asked why I was doing that, so I explained that I don’t rush into these things, and he accepted that. Except he kept trying to get physical, and I would put the brakes on, over and over. He was getting worked up and a little frustrated at my lack of reciprocation. Toward the end of the movie he asked me if it would be ok for him to “let it breathe”, I replied, "must you", I thought that based on my behavior, he was only going to unzip a little just to relieve the congestion in his pants.
Nope. He dropped his pants, all the way to the ankles, and proceeded to fondle himself. Sitting next to me. I just sat there in disbelief. Was this actually happening to me?

The movie ended and I announced that I was leaving and he needed a cold shower. He then asked if, instead of the cold shower, I could assist him. I couldn’t get out of there fast enough. He walked me to the door, with no pants on. I kid you not. 

FML.

The next day he texts me:

Him: So.. like what you saw last night? lol

Me: Still deciding how horrified I am

Him: Why horrified? I asked first

Me: Yeah but I wasn't expecting that. Not something I am used to.

Him: So it didn't make you the least bit horny?

True story.

I am still in partial disbelief. I find it absolutely hilarious, many of my friends have been getting good laughs from it. Are there still some good single men out there? Keeping the faith alive!

— Lara

Roxy's Readings

So i finish my first book from the library! The Carrie Diaries by Candace Bushnell.
What can i say?... it was cute, light and fun. Carrie is definitely not the va-va-voom shoe-obsessed crazy girl we've all come to love on Sex And The City, but what did i expect? In this book, Carrie's an insecure teenager, who just wants a boy to love her!

At least there's some comfort in knowing that we all go through awkward phases, and moments of insecurity, before BIG things happen in our lives. And also, to know, that when you want something bad enough, dreams do come true! So, if you want a book to read while sipping a daiquiri on the beach with your friends this summer, this is definitely a good pick! ...But, if you're looking for something deep and meaningful, this is not the one for you.

Oh and i just have to say that my favorite part of the whole book is the last line! For those that have read it, i'm sure you know what i mean. I won't ruin it for the rest of you! xo

So, NEXT, i have quite a few books on my list to read. I've already taken the big plunge and started The Passage by Justin Cronin. It's a sci-fi about vampires with a twist (so i'm told). And it's got rave reviews, including an advance praise from Stephen King. This book will take me a long time to read tho! I'm not a fast reader and it's 766 pages (hardcover!)! So... it might be a while before my next review! xo

Here's MY SEXY BOOK WORM LIST if you're looking for a new summer read:

• Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert — i want to read and know what all the fuss it about before it comes out in theaters!
• Crazy Busy Beautiful by Carmindy — my BFF bought this for me for my bday and even though i've started flipping through it, i want to read it properly from cover to cover!
• It's Not Him, It's YOU by Christie Hartman, PhD — This is my little secret book at the moment! I'm reading it simultaneously to other books and it's the best dating advice i've heard in years! Stay tuned!
• The Other Side of The Story by Marian Keyes — I haven't read many of  her novels, but some of my girlfriends love Keyes' writing. This one's on my bedside table waiting to be opened.

So I Have An Online Stalker...

Ok so you would think that you've “made it” in the blogger world when you have a stalker right? Wrong. I have an online stalker, and this is not glamorous at all. Actually he doesn't even deserve all the “press” i'm giving him. I just figured i'd share since many of my friends are worried. lol

So he's this guy who i started chatting with on Zoosk (in the short time i was on that site). I literally chatted with him for like 10 mins. Totally nothing. Generic conversation. Nothing of great importance. My #1 mistake, i added him as my Facebook friend. (mental note = don't do this!)  I wanted to check out HIS profile. Guy's profiles give you soooo much information, and it's a quick way to see if you're even remotely interested. This guy was a quick one, i wasn't interested. He was the “super proud french Italian from Laval type”. Sorry to be stereotypical, but honestly it was a bit ridiculous. Even in his pictures, there was bling, hair gel and car shots. No Thanks was my initial reaction. And honestly, my intuition about him was dead on.

So, like i said, we chatted for 10 minutes. That was that. But he wouldn't let go. He wrote me email messages for days. I didn't see them until 5 days later , when i got around to checking my messages.
5 messages from Diego (fake name don't worry).
The first one was nice: “ I had a super nice convo with you on msn the other day, hope to talk to you soon”.
Later that same day: “Can't wait to talk to you again”.
Ok, that's still nice...
Second day “ When are you coming on MSN? It's the same time as we chatted yesterday and i'm waiting for you. I'll hang out all night if i have to”
Third day: “ ...you never came online yesterday. I don't understand. What did i do? Are you not interested? You changed your status on facebook , so i know you're online.”

Fourth day. Message from Diego: “ stop avoiding me.”

Reading all these messages, i was not going to respond... All i thought was “freak”.
Then i went on Facebook. He had written comments on my photos, on my status updates, on everything he could possibly get his hands on. And then there were the Facebook messages:

“hey bella.... I was thinking, how about we exchange numbers so atleast we can get some txting going on.. some communication would be ideal.. here is my cell....”

“aiight this sucks.. guess I lost ur interest sorry I was excited in getting to know you.. you could of just told me u werent that interested.. I would of understood.. well good luck to you sweet you seem like an amazing girl..”

I felt bad at this point, so i wrote back just saying that i had alot going on right now (which was the truth) and was MIA. I wasn't going to be on MSN for a while, and either way , i didn't think i even owed him an explanation. We didn't know each other and i wasn't interested in starting anything up with him.

Then i got non stop emails:

“I'm in idiot lol. Cause I saw ur profile in the recent activities side think u had time to go and write something on ur profile so I was like fine. Don't reply to my message but go on zoosk. So I wrote ur a message.. So after sending it I see ur on recent activity cause someone sent u a gift. I'm an idiot sorry. I was like how do u retract a message on facebook.”

“Wow what a great first impression I'm making...my bad, and I'm sorry about that. can we just forget that stupid message I sent you and act like it never happened, I would really appreciate that.”

“I should of checked carefully.. I'm a type of person that isn't afraid of letting people know how I feel cause I like to talk about it...communication is important. Just want to say sorry once again and I hope u still want to get to know me.”

I REMOVED HIM as a friend because the emails just didn't stop. This was all the same day. Then the messages kept coming...

“hey hows it going?

“look I saw a beautiful girl I got excited about and really wanted to get the ball rolling and I messed up.. can I have another chance in getting to know you please?”

I know he SOUNDS nice, but just the tone of these emails and their frequency are really bothersome. So i blocked him on Facebook. But then just the other day i got this email in my Hotmail account. He must have jotted down all my info before i removed him! Freaky!

The latest one says: “hey how you been.. you look stunning in that pic.. so whats new?”

AS IF i'm going to answer him!!!! He's acting like an online stalker, but thank god he doesn't know my address! You got to be so careful what you put on the internet! & Diego if you're also stalking my blog, read this and GO AWAY!! I'm NOT interested!!

SUCCESS!

UPDATE! My A/C works! My “Installation Date” was a success! My “date” installed the old A/C my friends gave me from their garage. I was elated! And was prepared to take him out for supper and a movie to thank him. But he was too “tired” to even stay... He said he wouldn't be good company in the state he was in and could we take a raincheck? I said “sure” of course. I was just thrilled that he still had come by to help me out!

Turns out, he wasn't after any booty at all! Maybe he is, actually, a good guy...

You wouldn't have been able to convince me of THAT last year. Do you remember him? He was my first official blog post because i was soooo in TABARNAQUE against him! Read that post to find out what had pissed me off so much! 
I have to say tho, since then, we've taken a loooong no-talking break, after months we started chatting on MSN again, and now we go to the movies from time to time. And i was honestly shocked that he wanted to help me with this A/C... I thought he must have other motives.

After all that though, i think my lack of feelings for him is pretty clear. I'm pleased that he was just coming over to help me, and expected nothing in return.

At least i know i'm not interested, and he can simply be a guy friend!
On that note, I also want to give a shoutout to my best guy friend, BRUCE, who came all the way out here to help me last Tuesday night. He's the one who did the installation of the first A/C (that we didn't know was broken). Thx JB! Ur the best! xo And also thx to A who gave me this A/C from her garage!  I owe all you guys!

xo kisses

A/C installation date !

So i have a car washing, A/C installing, possible-dinner DATE Friday night. Very exciting. Well, the A/C installation part of it anyway! For those not aware... Montreal's been in a serious heat wave all week and my apartment is about 98 degrees (WITHOUT humidity) at the moment. I escaped to sleep at my parents house last night because melting away is NOT a sexy thing.

And yes, i might be using this guy just a LITTLE. But, i already know he's nice, plus we've dated in the past, and IF he can get that A/C to work i will be ELATED! Who knows, if the A/C breeze blows in the right direction, he might even get some! ;)

(He doesn't know this, but that's alright. Let's let him sweat it out. Literally.) hehe

What Fills Your Heart?

Girl on Girl

I was inspired to write this, from my new favorite show: Downtown Girls (MTV) Episode 3 baby! Watch it!

I think all girls in the dating scene get so fed up at times that we think maybe we should be giving a chance to our same sex partners : the girls.

Girl on girl is a very peculiar subject. Most know that i have quite vast knowledge of this subject since i have lived with 4 lesbians (2 couples) in a small apartment in the city, 2 yrs ago. One bathroom, one kitchen, 5 girls. You get to know your roomates very well. I love these girls like sisters (well actually one of them is my sister) and still hangout with most of them regularly.

The Sexy Book Worm ;)

Ok, so when i was growing up, i was the biggest book worm you could find! I even won awards through the public library for MOST SUMMER READINGS! And the prize was more books! I was so excited!

Then life happens. You grow up. Things get complicated. You fall in love with boys. Then boys break your heart. You Facebook. You tweet. You party. You drink. You fill your life with great girl friends. And then you realize somewhere along the way, that you still love to read...

Now it's summer, and one of my favorite things to do is read a book. Either on my balcony, on a Starbucks terrace (yes, you all know the Monkland one's my favorite!), or at the park. I feel happy being outside and reading. Maybe it goes back to growing up, and reading by my parents pool... either way, it calms me. In this digital world, of blogs (!), Facebook, Twitter, online dating, etc etc. It gives me a second to ground myself, and escape the stress of “life”.

So on this note, today i joined the library. I haven't been a library member since i was a kid. It was actually very exciting. It blew my mind. I walked out of the library with a newly published book (The Carrie Diaries by Candace Bushnell), a trashy magazine, a Yoga DVD and a romantic comedy to watch tonight.... all for free!! I kinda felt like I might set off the alarms as i walked out! I hadn't given them ANY money and i got all this!



So all that to say, checkout my new sidebar tab ====>>
so you can see which book i'm currently reading. And if it interests people, i could even give it my 5-star rating once i've finished it to let you know if it's worth a read!
Either way, i'm trying to find things in my life that relax me and that don't revolve around my computer! Don't get me wrong, I love writing for my blog, but all girls need to find a balance! xo