My Mantra

Absolutely LOVE this! It's a mantra i want to live by!
From my new favorite blog : CUBICLE REFUGEE

HELLO

Hi friends... it's been a while!
I'm so sorry that i haven't been writing. I feel like i needed to get off my computer this summer, be outside and have fun. You can't blame me for that! Montreal has had amazing weather!

Also... i'm not dating at the moment, i'm actually (for once) in a committed relationship. So... it's a bit hard to share bad date behaviors when i'm with someone who's making me happy.
Trust me, we've had our moments of turmoil! We broke up for 5 months... that was more distress than any couple needs! But, we seemed to have come through it stronger and happier than ever. I made a promise not to discuss our relationship online. I know that would be very juicy for YOU guys, but it wouldn't bode well for me and my happiness at the moment...

So that being said, I can say that i just took a wonderful “non-honeymoon honeymoon” to Los Cabos Mexico with my guy. It was magical, romantic, adventurous, fun, hilarious, gastronomic, intimate, relaxing, and hot hot hot!



Also, this summer i'm continuing to check things off from my list of SUMMER OF FUN. I checked off a bunch after my 30th BIRTHDAY, but i have continued since. So, here's my update:

1. ✔ Dive out of a plane on my 30th birthday!!
2. ✔ Party it up for my “dirty thirty” on Grand Prix weekend in Montreal!
3. ✔ ✔ Vacation  double check! St-Martin and Los Cabos !
4. Going to the shooting range (with my sister who's the gun expert - not joking!)
5. Bixi Bike riding in the city
6. Weekend with the girls to celebrate our 30th birthdays this summer! seem to be having lots of mini-parties instead!
7. Painting and drawing on my balcony/or take a class
8. ✔ Going to watch soccer match: Manchester United vs. Real Madrid in New Jersey (July)! couldn't get tickets, but went to an Impact game instead! (not the same , but still fun)
9. Book my tickets for the 2012 Summer Olympics (London, England) this dream is not looking hopeful...
10. Date Date Date. Join Match.com before my 30th birthday, so that i can enter my info as being 29!! don't need to since i got back with my guy :)
11. Master the art of making “James' Cheeseburgers”!! still needing James for this one...
12. ✔ Walk everywhere that i can -- up and down the hill i live on... 
13. Go to church, even if it is just one Sunday
14. ✔ Weekend away at Val's for a girl's weekend of girl talk, swimming and shopping!!
15. ✔ Teach my godson to play soccer! (i tried... it's maybe i bit too soon...)
16. Try to get MY knees in working condition so that i can play soccer too!! 
17. ✔ To actually finish some of the books i'm reading
18. ✔ To email less and facetime more (this goes with buying my iphone4 in June ✔)
19. And finally, to have more amazing nights of drinks and catching up with friends that i don't see enough still need to do this one!

So, as the Summer is winding down, i have a few more things to do, but overall it's been an amazing Summer, despite working like a dog... promise to write more frequently, and soon! xx

Dirty thirty

So I survived my Dirty Thirty, but I’m still recovering 4 days later!

First thing checked off my SUMMER OF FUN list =  ✔ skydiving!
Yes, I actually did it! And it was the most exhilarating feeling! I recommend Parachutisme Adrenaline (located in St-Jerome, QC) to any first-time jumpers. I will definitely go back again!


Next thing to check off my list = ✔ partying it up for my 30th; on Grand Prix weekend in Montreal. We partied at Ballroom with VIP service. I highly recommend them for any night you want to party! The night was epic. Lots of fun, lots of booze, lots of friends = happiness! I wouldn’t have changed a thing! Ok well... maybe the rainy-cold weather... oh and.. the 40 minute walk at the end of the night to find a cab! Apart from that; it was the perfect evening!



Thanks friends for the balloons, cupcakes & flowers at work, the wonderful BBQ with friends, & the night of partying! It was a special day xo I've got a GOOD feeling about my thirties when i'm surrounded by so many good friends and family xo

Deadline Obsessed

Answer this question: Are you living for the present or for the future?

The topic between my girlfriends and I the past few months, is our self-imposed deadlines… with our 30th birthdays sneaking up on us, we're all feeling the pressure. Same pressure, but different goals: finding Mr Right, getting married, buying a house, getting pregnant, or jump-starting our careers. It seems like everyone nearing their 30s is deadline obsessed!

I don't know if this obsession is a product of our parents asking us what we want to be when we're grown-up, or if it's simply a natural occurrence and part of that “biological clock” . But either way, we have to change our minsets! I find we get so focused on the goal we want to achieve… like finding a guy who might potentially be a husband and father to our future children. Ahem… no comment...

But some of these self-made “goals” are simply NOT achievable with hard work and dedication. And they cause tons of undue stress and disappointment. We have to realize that some things are simply left to fate. They will happen when they happen, and we need to learn to be ok with that.

Stop living for your goals, and enjoy the moment! Go to St.Martin and live it up! lol ok yes i'm talking to myself -- i just booked a vaca in St.Martin!! YAY for me!

God knows we all have enough pressures from society, our families, and work; so why put extra pressure on ourselves?

Enjoy everyday! If you choose to ignore the consequences for a little while, don't let anyone judge you ;)
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” — John Lennon

“Values change. Go with the flow”

Read an article in Flare magazine that is on the same train of thought as me:
http://www.flare.com/beauty-health/article/36977--are-you-deadline-obsessed

Happiness

Do you think that people tend to stay together out of insecurity?

Formspring question:

Have any of your long-term relationships resulted in a break-up then reconciliation? Do you think that people tend to stay together out of insecurity?

Yes, and yes. Almost every one of my serious relationships have had break-ups and make-ups ... I think every situation is different though. Some people need the drama and fights to resolve issues and move forward, others can call it quits immediately, with no room for reconciliation...
I think a lot of the time, people do tend to stay together out insecurity... especially if it's their first boyfriend and they started dating young.

How do you know he's the one, when you've never seen what else is out there?! 

But that's a scary thought to many, and i think that's why people tend to stay in relationships that aren't healthy or happy. The dating world can be ruthless, and you need confidence to be successful. But the thought of finding someone who can love you unconditionally is worth the risk!!
If you're scared of leaving your significant other, just remember this... I would rather be single, happy and rocking my own life, than in a relationship that's on-and-off-again and not satisfying me!

— Roxy xo

Ask me anything

Bumpy Ride ♫

I can't stop singing...

Ms Independent

I was trying to think how to write a blog post that would interest my readers. You all know that i don't go on dates anymore. Well, i do, but they are always with the same guy :) Which is awesome: as per my last blog post. No more random date with internet weirdos, no more meeting men in the most random spots! I'm not “riding solo” anymore.

At the beginning of Roxy's era, a year ago, i promised that i wouldn't discuss relationships. Not past ones, and not current ones. Relationships are hard enough to keep balanced without having someone blogging about how the other one pissed them off! LOL BUT… it seems i'm in a predicament because i want to keep writing and people want to keep reading… so… no worries, i will figure this out ;)

So, with no further ado, let's review the first topic of the week, something that's on my mind….

How do you go from being that awesome self-reliant-independent-chic that your friends love, to a heart-throb cool-as-fuck-girlfriend that he can fall in love with?

NYC baby!

I'm off to NYC — NOT for a wedding, NOT for a bachelorette, NOT for a baby shower, NOT for an engagement party OR EVEN to celebrate someone's wedding anniversary...

We're 5 girls and we're going to NYC to celebrate my great friend S's 30th birthday!!

GO CRAZY OH BABY! We're celebrating how AWESOME it is to turn 30 and be successful without husbands or babies!! 

Reservations at a boutique hotel, road trip with our own car, drinks on hand, high heels, cute dresses, and reservations at NYC's hottest spots! Maybe we'll even party with the Downtown Girls while we're there! SO EXCITING! I think I need this weekend more than S does ;)


P.S I will be TRYING to take a “mini-vacation” from my phone, so we'll see how that goes ;) but there might be surprise updates as we go!! 

Yea... Ok, He's My Boyfriend :)

So there's always this awkward moment in a relationship where you're not sure you can say that the guy your “seeing” is your “boyfriend” or not. You never want to jump the gun and assume wrongly... but when you're only dating each other and you're exclusive, what else is there to add?

If you've kissed him, slept with him, slept at his place, met his friends... even after all that... these days, it doesn't mean that you're an item, yet.  And asking him officially “are you my boyfriend?” kind of makes it feel like you're in elementary school...

So, when is it “official” for you? When he's met your parents? When he comes to a big event with you? when he stays over? when u change ur FB relationship status?

self-reflection

What's was your dream for 2010?
Are you living up to your expectations of yourself?
Are you being the best you can be?
Or are you letting yourself down...
Self-reflection is a constant need for us to feel happy and satisfied with the life we're living.

I am faced with these questions, and this reality, due to supporting my friends who are suffering or have experienced realities that are tougher than most. Death, loss, tragedy, love, friendship, family, depression, grief, miracles and uncertainty... It makes me question life, how i live, who i choose to love, and what i want at the end of it all. It's rather intense and humbling all at once.

This is me, the real me, raw and honest.
Love yourself.
Free yourself. xo kisses.

So there's This Guy... i've been seeing

So there's this guy... isn't there always?!... that i've been seeing.

And i haven't written about him much to everyone's disappointment — well maybe once...
I just decided on a new tactic for this one... trying NOT to put pressure on it, or jinx it.

So basically i decided to NOT talk about it, even though he's been wonderful every step of the way. I guess every girl gets tired of dates never working out the way you hope they would. And sometimes when your feelings are involved and “out there” (like mine of the world wide web!), it can get... extra frustrating.

But now, there's good things going on here, so i feel the need to talk, so here it goes. Let's hope i don't jinx this!

A/C installation date !

So i have a car washing, A/C installing, possible-dinner DATE Friday night. Very exciting. Well, the A/C installation part of it anyway! For those not aware... Montreal's been in a serious heat wave all week and my apartment is about 98 degrees (WITHOUT humidity) at the moment. I escaped to sleep at my parents house last night because melting away is NOT a sexy thing.

And yes, i might be using this guy just a LITTLE. But, i already know he's nice, plus we've dated in the past, and IF he can get that A/C to work i will be ELATED! Who knows, if the A/C breeze blows in the right direction, he might even get some! ;)

(He doesn't know this, but that's alright. Let's let him sweat it out. Literally.) hehe

I can cry if i want to.

So peeps, yes it's true. Today is my birthday. Same day as the premiere of World Cup 2010. Same weekend as Grand Prix Montreal. But, really. We can all agree that my birthday is the most important out of the bunch. ;)
28 has been a rocky year of mixed emotions (actually, what year hasn't?!), but a truly awesome one. I have reasons to celebrate, reasons to be thankful, reasons to smile, reasons to hug my friends and kiss my godson, reasons to laugh, and reasons to cry.

Tonight, i am celebrating my 29th birthday with my closest friends and my siblings. A year ahead full of hope, health, happiness and love. At least that's what i'm wishing for.

And tonight, we'd better have fun! The planning for this night was a nightmare. I thought i was going to have to cancel, but then, by a strange miracle it got saved by a close colleague of mine. It's weird how things work out sometimes... It just goes to show, that we all just have to stay positive and good things will come!

So, on that note.
Let the good times begin bitches!! xoxo

P.S. no worries, i do indeed have a designated driver to drag me back home when i'm drunk off my ass ;) 

 
Health, love and happiness. 

Stay Tuned!

I'm so excited! Date #4 setup for tomorrow night! The Frenchie is cooking me supper at his place, and he asked me to bring my USB stick so he can give me some music :) I know it's geeky, but i think he "gets me" already!! lol

Stay tuned for updates!
Or simply follow along on Twitter

The Frenchie

So.... exciting news :: update on last night's date = it was amazing! Maybe the bouncer has FINALLY let me into the ‘normal’ pool of guys (long story that I’ll explain this weekend! Lol). The date was so good in fact, that I woke up at 4am and couldn’t get back to sleep for hours because I was really excited.

And yes, maybe I am jumping the gun here, but I think a little bit of happiness is good for the soul ;) Even if it doesn’t work out in the end. Right girls?! 

So, let me tell you everything! First of all, I had a crisis at 5pm, when the restaurant/bar I had made reservations with 2 days prior, called me to CANCEL my reservation! Or actually, to tell me that they simply don’t make bar reservations on nights when there are hockey games!! There had been a mistake made when I had called on Tuesday. I was beyond furious! How dare they call me 2 hours before game time! Making reservations anywhere else in the city would have been impossible at that time!

So, I text my date and explain the situation. Totally in distress. And surprisingly, he said: ‘No problem, i’ll go to the bar an hour early to get us seats’ !!! Wow, I was super impressed! The date hadn't even begun and he was in my good books!

So, 2 hrs later, I get to the bar, and he’s even more good looking in person than in his pictures on the internet. BTW we met over Zoosk — he is the last one I've decided to talk to, because so many of the Zoosk guys are after one thing... and I am getting annoyed! All the things I had sensed about him from our emails were accurate: he’s laidback, funny, chill, speaks English amazingly well considering he’s French, and he was honest about his profile. Plus in person, our conversation flowed so easily, that I can hardly remember what we talked about for 4 hours. And even though the big hockey game was on the big screen, I hardly watched. Which is pretty shocking for me! He was just really interesting to talk to.

I even told him about my blog, and surprisingly he thought it was great! He wanted to know what I was going to write about him, which of course I didn’t tell..... and he’s probably dying to know today! Hahaha At least, for him, he was the one who decided on his nickname : The Frenchie. Which I think it really appropriate, because while leaving the bar he kissed me ♥♥♥ and man he is a gooood kisser! Not like Mr. Teeth Kisser from a few weeks ago! Ewweeie lol
 
So, on my drive home, I was already being a typical girl and hoping he was going to call me in the next few days to make plans. But, I didn't have to think about it long, because he texted me last night to say he had a great time and hopes to see me again soon! YAY!
I'm not sure what the plan is for date #2, but I’m really looking fwd!! Stay tuned and have a great day chicas! xo AND GO HABS GO!!!!!

What Makes Me Happy

When dates are few and far between, we have to remind ourselves of all the things that make us happy :) Here's my list; with the help of a few friends (Val, Erin, KT, +++):

• chocolate 
• wine 
• good food 
• shopping with the girls 
• succeeding at work
• trying new things 
• my friends happiness&success 
• sunshine
• loud MUSIC MUSIC MUSIC while driving my car
• getting my hair&nails done
• a random cute guy smiling at me
• having a clean car: in and out!
• paying a big chunk off my Visa!
• or getting my Visa bill and realizing I spent less than I thought!
• getting a hug
• someone telling me they love me
• weekend at the cottage with great friends 
• snuggling
• my godson's smile
• lacy underthings (especially from Blush!)
• platform pumps (...drool... you should see the new ones i just bought!!)
• dreaming...

So, now you know my secrets,
but what makes YOU happy?!

Top 10 Crazy Dating Moments of 2009

So as most of you now by now, this year has been full of crazy dating experiences for me... i mean, that was the whole reason i started this blog. And let me tell you , i haven't even finished telling all my funny dating stories! Stay tuned in the New Year for more stories from yours truly ;)

So, here's a recap of the funniest dating moments of the year... some you've heard, some i still need to write about!

10. Drunken date says to me: “I saw a picture of your best friend on Facebook and damn she's hot!” (as he's eyeing the waitress' ass!)

9. My valentine's day date shows up at my apartment with a oversized bottle of Jack Daniels. No flowers. Just Jack. (WITHOUT knowing that i love Jack.) Let's just say his “obvious” plan didn't work out.

8. The Videotron guy dancing around my living room to Suavemente!

7. My date comes to cook me a birthday supper, but asks ME to pick up and pay for all the groceries on my way home from work.

6. Showed up to meet a guy from the dating site, and finding out that he's in his late forties with long gray hair...

5. Exs simply being total self-centered pricks. Oops did i just say that...

4. First date: Nice conversation. Then date says to me: “Can i cook you breakfast in the morning?”. The date was over pretty fast.

3. My phone date with the guy with anxiety and uncontrollable farting... 'nuf said. lol.

2. Receiving a photo-txt-msg of my naked ex-boyfriend while out for lunch with colleagues... awkward!

1. Mid-way through a date, the guy's girlfriend shows up at the door. Not happy to see ME mid-wine bottle on his couch. Then she waited in his bedroom until i leave!

Sigh... let's hope it's only good stories this year!!
Happy New Year!

Roxy's New Year's Resolution

From ROXY

Hmmm i've been thinking about this one for a few weeks now...
What do i REALLY want to focus on in this New Year? ...finding my Mr.Right... workout to get my body healthier... less stress... eat better... spend less... pay off debts... save for all those wonderful things i want and places i want to go... spend more time with the ones i love... drink less (and don't make a fool of myself at Office Xmas Parties!!!)...

So... when it comes down to it, i just want to improve on ME. Improve myself in many facets of life. There's not ONE thing i need or want more than all the others.

So, can my New Year's Resolution simple be : BE A BETTER ME.?

I think i'll have less chance of failing that way too. Some things are bound to work, and some things will take more time (like the whole no drinking thing...i mean, who are we kidding here?).

I think overall this past year was SO much fun! I did alot alot of things, and i've been busy almost every second of the year. Literally. You can ask my colleagues! I mean, after all, i was getting over a breakup for part of the year. Everyone's allowed some fun, right? But, with dwindling amounts in my bank account, i think the responsible Roxy needs to come out to play for a little while. So, maybe instead of going out for drinks with my bestest, i should stay at home and make her a martini instead. You meet a lot less guys that way... but cmon' it's -28 degrees outside anyway. How many guys are going to find you attractive with an Eskimo jacket and woolly toque on anyway?? The guy i'm seeing (who you all know as : Tiger) thinks i look like a Rastafarian with one of my winter toques on... that can't be good! but, i don't care, it's cold!

So, all this to say that i think i need to take a little time to chill and be a better me this year. Less frivolous spending, more quality time with family and friends, healthier eating, and yes, i'll try to cut-down on the drinking! I think that's the best New Year's Resolution i can make for myself :)

On that note: HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!
Be responsible at all your parties tonight, i know i will ;)
Let 2010 be your year of love, sex and magic!! hehe

Let's Ignore the 30cm of Snow...

Let's ignore the 30cm's of snow that just hit Montreal ...and think of happier times... imagine paradise..My vision of paradise looks something like this...

ok i know this is not really the xmasy spirit, but i'm just not feeling “jolly” right now!!